should parent spank their children.

“Thuong cho roi cho vot, ghet cho ngot cho bui” is a proverb of Vietnamese. It means that if when you love someone you want them become good persons, you should use strict ways, sometimes include some violence activities. If you don’t love them, you don’t need to do that. The fact many people use that way to do with their lovers, especial their children. Parents usually spank their children when their children have made mistakes as a good way to help children better; however, in my opinion, I strongly disagreed with this behavior because of many reasons. Spank children is not a wise way to help the people, who did something wrong, to recognize their mistakes. Moreover, it makes the relationship between parent and children become badly.

            Spank children when their made mistakes is not the best way to teach them. First, spanking is an action which is bad for health. It made the muscle was be intumesced, and maybe get sick to children. In addition, what would happen if the parents always punish children by spanking without explain or show problems for their children? At first, the children will be very afraid of being spanking and don’t dare to do it again, but after sometimes, your children will think that if they wrong, they would only be punish and think no think about the results of this trouble. Your children will ignore every troubled, they will become lack of responsibilities persons. In any case it seems clear that spanking is not good. In stead of spanking, we should try to do other ways to help them see the troubles such as: asked them told you: what they did, why they did, and how they felt after did it to understand them more, after that we need to explain the wrong points and the results to our children, and give them some advise. When they knew they wrong, they will do something to resolve problems by themselves, and at this time they are more mature.

      Spanking is not only bad choice of parent but also the knife which killed the relationship of family. When someone made mistakes they were very embarrassed, they needed we help, but we just punish them, so we will be monsters in our children’s mind. They are afraid of us, so they don’t talk to us any more. We lose our children. Moreover, if they don’t have anyone to share their thought, they find someone who maybe a bad person and taught our children to become a thief, a murderer. By this action, we killed our children’s life. In order hand, we ourselves were not happy, too. We became lonely in our home because of the silence of children. The happiness will be disappeared.

     Although people can see that, they can’t stand controlling themselves because of the naughty of children and just spank can stop them. It is not a right way because the characteristic of people is base on the education they received. The education is good, the people are good too.

            In any case it seems clear that parent should not spank children in any situation because spank is a kind of violent punishes. It is not good for parent and their children too. The parent should be a friend of their children to help them better. The more you are friendly, the more successful you get. Try your best to receive the respect of children in stead their afraid.

Compare yourself now with the one 5 years ago.

Second by second, minute by minute, the flow of time still goes on. It makes something be languished, especial unhappy memories, changes many things, people a little bit or in completely way, include me. Although I still keep the same characteristic like what I was from past to now, my viewpoints have been changed a lot.

            From many commends of my friends, they said that I still have the same looking like I was 5 years ago. The first, my hair is always short and straight. It makes me look like a modern and active girl, but I am not, because I cry whenever I am sad and get some big mistakes. I am still weak. One more thing, I always dress serious when I go out. My clothes hardly have pink color, a favorite color of girl. I would like black and white on my clothes with a bit classical style. Next, I still like listen to music, and read detective stories, which take me a lot of hours a day whenever I had free time.

      Despite the similarities, my points of view are different from before. The first think I have changed is my opinion about life. When I was younger, I thought if I am sincere with people, they would do it in return to me any time I need while the truth is not alike, and I must get used to with it. For example, one of my roommates forgot her materials in renting room, she called me for help. At that time, I immediately stopped my homework to bring the books for her although I had a test this afternoon. On the other hand, she ignored my need, she stayed at room, did a hand-make gift for her friend’s birthday. Secondly, I am more open minded than before. In the past, with me, true is true and false is false, I did not admit any reasons for every mistake, but now I try to listen and understand the reasons and sympathize to people. Indeed, the roommate who made me disappointed before said sorry and explained the reason she did that. Her friend would leave school after this party, so she wanted give him a present as the thing remind him about her. I think this reason is reasonable, so I forgive her. Finally, I realize that I must stand on my foot without any help because my lover can’t be always with me. One day, I had a bad mark on my favorite subject, I called my father for a advice. I did not say about it because my father was very busy and my mother was ill. I promised with myself that I have to try more. I do not lament about my studying any more.

            To sum up, my changes help me more mature, more self-confidence, and my similarities between now and before help me fell that I still be a little girl in my friend’s mind. Time can change any thing. The change helps us grow up, so we do not need to regret when time bring some good thing which was belong to you far away. It will bring you another better.